8 Signs Your Friends With A Control Freak

8 Signs Your Friends With A Control Freak

1. They have a tendency to correct people

A control freak is usually driven by the urge that they want everything to be done in a way that they feel is correct. These people avoid mistakes in their own life and as such have a high need to correct others in case they find anything wrong. They can correct people for an incorrect pronunciation or spelling, bad manners, details about something from the past if they see something wrong or inappropriate or an irrational argument. The underlying factor for such behaviour is their belief that they are usually or always correct and as such, they have to let others know about that.

2. They are judgmental and critical about other people 

The control freaks are usually very judgemental and this comes to them very naturally. Consequently, they tend to judge people based on their errors or mistakes. It is like a reflex action to them because they are highly opinionated about everything surrounding them and have a set of few strict rules and principles. They can have an opinion for things like; how people should lead their lives, how someone should go about his/her choices etc. They see themselves as some kind of self-righteous superior being who doesn’t fit among their friends and family.

3. They refuse to admit when they are wrong

One of the most astonishing characteristics of a control freak that annoys most of their friends, relatives or acquaintances is their audacity to refuse to accept that they can be or are wrong about something. It can be for the smallest and stupidest of things, but a control freak doesn’t care or bother about that because the only thing that they believe is that they can do no wrong. Further, their thought process becomes so distorted that they start believing that others may utilize the acceptance of their mistake against them, or may perceive them as foolish or incompetent because of such mistakes or errors.

4. They believe that they know what is best for any situation

The control freaks inherently think that they are the only ones know on the planet who know what is best for everyone under any circumstances. Such people even try to manipulate others’ behaviour to act in such a way that suits their agenda. It is out of their superiority complex that they feel they have the duty to convince others to change their behaviour either through aggressive tactics, piling pressure or manipulating them.

5. They act like the Messiah who prevents bad things from occurring

If you come across any of the control freaks then you will be able to notice that they are very much worried about the future. With that kind of backdrop, they just can’t help themselves but act like the Messiah and try to ensure that they prepare themselves for anything bad that is coming their way. In that process, they end up wasting much of their time by concentrating on events that might not even happen.

6. They hold onto grudges

Beware of the control freaks because they can hold onto grudges against you for the rest of their life. Generally, a control freak likes to see the things in their own way and if he/she is not allowed to dictate terms then they’ll simply start to develop grudges against you. Further, in case if the things don’t go well with your ways too then you are up for some real criticism from them and then they will make sure that you are reminded of your failures every now and then. What hurts more is that these control freaks try to insult you in public. 

7. They want to win all the arguments

A control freak simply wants to win all the arguments and as such he/she can’t let anyone else have the last say in an argument. The control freaks think that they hold the right to have the final word to finish off any discussion. In situations where they are not allowed to have the last word, they feel that the discussion has remained unresolved and hanging and that is a kind of mental agony for them. As already said, they believe that they are the most practical, logical, and intelligent one in any crowd and that needs to be shown to everyone. This person will never empathize for someone who has committed a mistake and as such you will never hear them say to someone else, “Don’t worry, we all make mistakes”. According to a control freak, if someone makes a continual mistake then he/she must either be too lazy or just plain stupid.

8. They drive with rage

People with a high need for control often get very frustrated while driving. They believe they are the only ones who know how to drive correctly. They often put other drivers down, make nasty faces at them, or even curse or issue profanities when someone on the road does something that bothers them. Yet the most common problem with high-control men and women on the road is their own impatience. They get annoyed because drivers go too slow or too fast. They treat pedestrians as interference getting in the way of accomplishing their goals. Again, in the minds of these individuals, it's all about them and they don't spend time trying to imagine what anyone else thinks or feels in the same situation.

~In Conclusion

High-control men and women, the people we call "control freaks," engage in a series of behaviors that frustrate others and cause resentment. These individuals operate the way they do because they believe that they need to in order to meet their needs and accomplish their goals. If you see someone you love in these behaviors, it's time to have a chat about what bothers you, so that your resentments don't get worse, jeopardizing the future of the relationship. If you point out to a high-control man or woman that you have a problem with them, give them a few concrete examples of what they do that bothers you—and give them time to work on changing.

From the above points, it can be said that control freaks act in such a way that it ends up frustrating and causing resentment in others. Such individuals operate this way because they feel that they need to keep everything under control in order to achieve their own goals. So, if any of the above-mentioned qualities are exhibited by your friend, partner etc. then chances are that you are actually dealing with a control freak. If matters do not get better, you must carefully cut those puppet strings and find ways to get out of this situation you're in. It won't be easy, but in the end it will be worth it.