💜5 Important Things I've Learned from my Mother💜

💜5 Important Things that I've Learned from my Mother💜

Patience: My mother has always said (especially when i was at my worst), "yes, things are tough right now but they will get better. You just gotta have a little more patience and trust in God." For that moment in my life i thought my mom was full of it but in fact, she wasn't. I never really realized how bad life had treated her. When my mother told me what had happened throughout her lifetime i was speechless. I didn't know what to say. All the torment and abuse she went through...I thought i had it bad growing up? No, mine was simply boo-boos on a playground compared to my mom. She really went through the ringer. Everyday i hold these quotes to my heart. My mother would reply in a gentle smile, "I know life is unfair right now, but things WILL get better; they always do." Growing up i could see that my mother had a tremendous amount of patience, in which she had a lot more than that and she still does. I am so grateful she has taught that same patience to me.

Respect: My mother has taught me a lot of things, respect is one of the many. I grew up loving all people, no matter the race, gender, religion, etc. You could be from Jupiter, have stripped blue and orange skin and worship a flying cosmic egg, I'm still going to respect and love you. I may not have the same beliefs or customs you have but im still going to hug and welcome you. If you respect me, I'm gonna respect you. That's how i was brought up. In my eyes that's how it should be everywhere. To disrespect someone, anyone or anything is just wrong. Whether it's the holidays, someone's house, church, even a job site. When you dis somebody, you're actually dis-ing yourself; same goes for the other person. We are all children of the Divine and therefore we're all family. Plus, i don't think the Almighty Above likes when we hurt each other in any way. A wiseman once told me, "actions speak louder than words, scars will heal but some foul words cannot be taken back." My mother told me the same thing growing up. Thanks to both of them, and still today, my heart and soul are always open.

Open-mindedness: My mom has raised me to be open-minded to any subject. No matter the persons race, religion, beliefs, sex, gender, choices, etc. As a child growing up i was born into a group of eccentric artists. Yes, we did have a few family members who were not very willing to consider new and different ideas or the opinions of others. I was really grateful i was born from the black sheep of the family. Many of my other relatives(not giving out names) did not approve of unusual new things, nor were they fond to hear and consider new ideas. I don't like to say this but some of my family members on both sides were very ignorant to a lot of subjects. Being raised to be open-minded has taught me so many positive things and given me multiple good qualities.

Honesty: Another thing my mother has taught me is to be honest. Not just with others but with myself. Because if you're not going to be honest with yourself how are you going to be honest to others? It's better for the soul to be truthful, to come clean, no matter how hard it is to speak up. Dishonesty is never good, it will lead you down into a place where you really don't want to be. The only way out is to tell the truth. Lying can really weigh on you too, and it can spiral out of control. In my opinion, the only time someone should lie is when it's a life or death situation. Growing up my moms punishments if i did happen to lie where at that time suitable. When i look back i say to myself, "Juli, i can't believe you did that?" Of course at those times of my life i thought it was unfair, but I'm happy my mother showed me that what i was doing was not good. Yes, my mother was a strict woman, and still today she can be. Most kids of any age won't say this about their parents but i am extremely grateful my mother taught me right from wrong. I wouldn't be the women i am today.

Compassion: What can i say? I like to listen to the contributions of others. Taking a few seconds to open the door for someone. Using positive language and smiling. Whether spending a few hours catching up with family and friends, or sharing a hug with someone. Practicing these acts of compassion has made me who i am today. My mother taught me these things all my life. Some of these came naturally but to be honest, the smiling part my mother really had to drill me on. She would say, "Smile honey, smile! You never know what a smile can do. You might make someones day." Having compassion for others( in my opinion) should be a day-to-day thing. Plus, it's a ripple effect and good karma to boot.